The 'Non-Objective' Concept: The Obstacle of Future
You live in a perpetual tension toward an imaginary future. You are convinced that clarity lies in the next accomplishment. But this desire to change what is constitutes the main cause of your confusion. You set constant goals — “I must be calmer,” “I must be more efficient” — and this movement splits you internally. This quest for perfection is a violence against yourself, masking your fear of the unknown.
This division drains you. The more you try to reach a future state through effort, the less present you are to understand the mechanism of your blockage here and now. It is an endless race: your desire for perfection prevents the understanding of your imperfection. Understanding imperfection does not mean resigning to it, but seeing it so clearly that it stops manipulating you. Real change is not a becoming, it is the end of conflict.
“The desire to change what is, is the main cause of suffering and confusion.”
When your mind no longer strains toward a future success, it becomes extraordinarily sharp. I call this the “Non-Objective.” It implies no inertia, but an action born from the total clarity of the present. When you fully understand the mechanism of your anger, it stops on its own. You no longer need the “goal” to be calm; calm becomes your natural state.
Written by
Rem Sari
Personal & Relational Coach in Brussels. Expert in human dynamics with over 10 years of observing the mind's mechanisms. His approach focuses on immediate clarity rather than effort.